Play Guidelines

Things to talk thru/negotiate before we get weird :3 for an overview on ‘stuff I like doing’ check the kink info and picture spaces

  • My knees are my primary point of failure. I have a hard time kneeling for extended periods of time, but I’m pretty good at self-monitoring/asking if I need to switch positions. As mentioned elsewhere, I have herpes, it's in remission, I haven't transmitted to anyone, including intimate partners, in all my time of having it. What about you? Anything I need to know?

  • You can call me: pet, slut, whore, toy, princess, good girl, Fe, bitch, fuckdoll/fucktoy/etc (no masc terms pls). What should I call you in scene?

  • I use stoplight system! Ask me for a color check, I will take stock and check in with myself, and also I will volunteer colors when I feel I need to. If I'm headspacey, I may be begging/pleading/saying no, but these are not safewords and do not require you to stop (although you're always welcome to check in). CRYING IS NOT A YELLOW OR RED FOR ME. If we’re doing intense play, I may end up going to a crying place! This is good! I like to get hit till I cry!

    I will try to discuss up front if I’m looking for hardcore cnc in a scene.

    I can also use a 1-10 scale when it comes to play. You can request me to rate how I'm doing with impact/pain/intensity on a 1-10, but with 7 being "this is perfect intensity/sustainable level of impact", and 8-10 being "this is too intense to sustain, and would lead to a yellow or red over time"

    IMPORTANT! Tops can (and should!) have safewords they feel comfortable using too! Feel free to borrow my system or tell me if you use your own!

  • Unless we’ve explicitly negotiated to the contrary, this is a good set of general limits:

    Avoid breaking the skin/inflicting injuries that would take longer than 2 weeks to heal (plz don't break my nose etc). Knives are fun to threaten/scrape, but I'm not looking to get sliced open. If I do bleed a little from something, let me know and I can decide if I need to yellow/red

    No needles or e-stim

    No scat

    No piss (without a lot of negotiating)

    No incest play, race play, or age play

    No cutting my hair/eyebrows

    No heavy breath play without negotiating (light choking is fine)

    Light/threatening cbt is fine, no heavy cbt

    Panties stay on unless explicit negotiation has happened. Groping/pawing over the fabric is fine, please don't reach inside.

    What limits do you need to tell me?

  • This is more a prompt for an in-person discussion, but basically lets remember to check in on how we want the scene to make each of us feel! This is an important question I’m trying to get better at asking

  • Humiliation is awesome but a massive area to jump into!

    Things I’m ok being teased about:

    Being slutty, being used, being empty headed/dumb because of horny, being pretty but ruined, being fuckmeat, etc.

    Things I am not ok being teased about:

    Being ugly/body shaming, gender shaming/genderplay, being annoying/unhelpful/a sex pest

    If you’re looking to do humiliation play, we should talk about what that looks like!

  • I’m a cuddleslut! If you don’t like doing cuddly touchy aftercare, please let me know before we scene so I can make sure I line up someone else to cuddle with while I’m coming back up. If we’ve done messy play, I won’t be able to begin processing/recovery till I’m clean, I’ll be very hazy before then. I like to check in/debrief/discuss how stuff went after I’ve had a chance to cuddle, and then usually again the day after. What does aftercare look like for you? Do you get droppy?